You Are Doing Great Things And Going Places, Just Wanted To Know – Are You Happy?

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Here is a subject that is close to my heart - It is close because it is a lesson I learnt after living over three decades of my life. The lesson was taught by our very own teacher called time.

To me being happy means:

·        Do everything that gives us a feel good vibe.

·        Refuse to do anything that does not feel good, no matter what the pressure is

·        Not to give ourselves permission to do something that will hurt another living being (even if it gives us good vibes due to some quirky sense of humor)

It is simple but not easy. All we need to do is let go of our nature to compare ourselves with others, to judge others without actually being in their shoes or living their lives and that nagging fear of making wrong choices or our anger when we do make those mistakes.

In other words we are human beings and we will always try to validate ourselves with our known benchmarks. For us it is a natural thing to do. How can we overcome our shortcomings?

 “Acceptance” - Accepting ourselves as we are, loving ourselves even when we made wrong choices and living life as it is meant to be lived - one day at a time!

Be happy as that is the key to your mental health. What gym is to your body, being happy is to your mind.

You look depressed after viewing those hundred odd photographs of your friend’s world tour or Scuba diving or that handsome hunk or the glass cut beauty in their engagement albums.

Go back to bullet no. two, before you add weeds, mess with your mind and stay depressed rest of the day. Happiness is not something you create - it is a state of mind. Only you can own that.

When you have a senior person in your house suddenly talk about his childhood, live in those days as if he is in college or just married, address people with names of that time – it probably does not occur to you that the man who looks physically fine and healthy is displaying one of the early symptoms of Dementia.

You can’t take charge of your mind when it is already affected, be responsible today! Be happy – that is the surest way to take care of your mind.

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Author Profile: Kalpana Mahalingam

Kalpana has always been inclined towards betterment of children's welfare, supporting upcoming entrepreneurs/ boutique managers with financial contribution to support their cause. She is an artist, conversationalist, fluent in German and currently dwelling on her French and guitar classes. After several years in Corporate, she is now on her own entrepreneurial journey.